Top 10 tips to groom your personality
Dear Reader,
In a very crisp, simple to understand write-up, I will let you know how you should take care of yourself and your personality will automatically be groomed.
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Take care of your dressing style:
First thing to be taken care of is how you dress up. It makes the first impression; your dressing style speaks volumes even before you start interacting with others. Shabby dressing (applicable to both genders) does not leave a “cool impression”, but a bad impression, yes; you read it right, bad impression. Dressing tips will be shared in my later post (for both genders).
- No need to spend thousands on expensive products:
It is important to be dressed up in comfortable decent clothes, usage of decent accessories and make-up products (moisturizer etc for both genders), wear a good fragrance and appear before people. It should look presentable and suit your personality, immaterial of its cost. -
Listen to others:
It is nice to be a good speaker, but remember a very important component of good communication skills is to listen to others, let them complete their sentence first and then speak. You may want to interrupt in between just because you know something or you purely disagree, but it is a good habit to let the other person complete his/her sentence first and then start speaking. This way you get fresh insight, something new to learn or understand from a different perspective. Trust me, you will get opportunity to speak and with fresh inputs and a pause, you can better frame your sentence. -
Think before you speak:
It is a good habit to think first and then speak, remember the very old saying, “bullet from gun and words from tongue, once fired, never come back !”. Words are always remembered; therefore try to make your first impression not only your last but also your lasting impression. To make a lasting impression you need to put in efforts, one best way, listen, pause, ponder and then speak. And it all happens in fraction of seconds ! -
Being positive is totally upto you !
Life is full of wanted and unwanted events. It is upto you to decide if you find negatives out of positives or positives out of negatives. Attitude matters! Remember Mr Ratan Tata said, “ups and downs in lifeare very important to keep us going, because a straight line even in an ECG means we are not alive”. Your take-home advice from this write-up, try to be positive at any given point of time, trust me, your personality will reflect positivity and people will cherish being in your company, sharing their experience with you and listening to you. Your choice of words reflects your personality. To be positive is an essential ingredient of life, trust me, it’s all in the mind. Stop feeling all the time, start thinking! -
Believe in your own self worth:
You need to believe in yourself and your self worth. The more you believe in yourself, the more you will find dealing with hindrances, roadblocks and failures pleasurable. They eventually teach you, yes, they teach you good lessons. Remember, what Thomas Alva Edison said after not being able to make bulb, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10000 ways that won’t work.” That should be your spirit towards life, believe you me, with such high spirit, you are ever ready to face any challenge, head-on. -
Please stop cribbing:
The more you ponder on this much repeated phrase, “why me?”, the more you depress yourself. It is not going to work, anyway! I’m not being rude, but this is the fact of life. You need to learn to deal with situations and circumstances. The moment you stop cribbing, complaining and comparing yourself with others, you get a fresh perspective and approach towards life. This reflects in your personality. Nobody wants to be in the company of a complaining person or hire such a personality. Beware! -
Smile:
Does it cost you something? No, it’s absolutely free, but makes your personality dynamic and worthy! A smiling face is most noticeable and admired one. Learn to smile through thick and thin, remember, nothing is permanent, but change. So smile and shine! -
Appreciate:
We like being appreciated, but hesitate appreciating others. Why? Does that reduce your worth? NO! Then why not appreciate something you find worth appreciating. Be liberal in your approach towards appreciating others, it brings positivity and you are admired. Be natural, be original, be spontaneous, don’t be artificial, it reflects! -
Interact and socialise:
Try interacting with as many people as you can. A well groomed person does not shy away from meeting others and sharing his thoughts on various topics. Yes, you may not find every topic interesting, but that does not give you a license to isolate yourself. Talk for a while and then move on is the key.
If you remember, I told in the opening paragraph that I will tell you how to take care of yourself and your personality will groom automatically. Wearing expensive clothes, high end perfumes and accessories are not essential; they are optional, decent dressing however, is essential. In addition to good/decent dressing sense, a well groomed personality is the one which carries the right attitude, right frame of mind, sound interpersonal skills, good choice of words and is aware how to carry oneself well. Take care of these essential ingredients to make the difference.
Go ahead, meet and greet the challenges from the front, head-on!
